Speaking of arrogant males…
I just learned that a certain pastor had one H*LL of a nerve trying to counsel other people’s marriages, considering that his wife was sleeping around behind his back during their entire marriage. Yes, he did know about it, because he confronted one of the guys his wife hit on, who told him to talk to her, because she was the one trying to instigate something and he’d told her to get lost, he didn’t do married women.
I never felt comfortable discussing my own “internal affairs” with this guy, and only spoke when spoken to. When my own marriage was breaking up, he summoned me to his office and ripped me a new one, told me what I could and could not do, and I more or less told him where he could stuff his coulds and could nots. I never felt even a twitch that suggested I should have listened to him–and now I feel just a little bit vindicated. Okay, a whole lot vindicated.
I could point to other people that he more or less destroyed with his meddling and bad advice. He consistently refused to see that there could be two sides to any story, and ALWAYS took the man’s part, lying and abuse notwithstanding. Needless to say, I stopped going to his church a very long time ago. Their website now lists him as “on leave of absence,” and some other guy I don’t know as “acting senior pastor.”
Doesn’t the Bible say something about elders of the church needing to have their own houses in order to be eligible to serve in that capacity?
Will he ever acknowledge the lives that he tried to ruin? Somehow I doubt it.